Aleksandra
Kostina
Birth advocate, wellness facilitator, and speaker — helping women trust their bodies, their instincts, and themselves.
Hear your own knowing over your own fear.
I'm also the founder of a nature-led community that started as one gathering and has grown into thousands of people, season after season.
WHO I AM
A woman who built
wisdom from fire.
I was born in Klaipėda, Lithuania, to a Vietnamese mother and a Russian father, and I grew up too much for most of the rooms I was placed in. Too restless. Too questioning. Too unwilling to accept that the adults around me had the whole truth just because they said so with confidence.
That restlessness followed me into an early marriage that became an abusive one. I stayed longer than I should have, because leaving felt more frightening than staying — until it didn't anymore, and I left. Rebuilding myself afterward is the actual root of everything on this page: I learned to trust my own body again by giving birth at home, more than once, on my own terms, after years of quietly teaching myself everything the maternity system never offered to explain.
“The brain will always find a reason to talk you out of what you already feel is true. This work is learning to hear your own knowing — over your own fear.”
A few years ago I started a single circle — a handful of women meeting to talk honestly, without performing for each other. I didn't plan for it to become anything more than that. It grew into a nature-led community that now gathers by the thousands through the seasons, and I've since built more than one business out of the same instinct: that women don't need fixing. They need reminding.
THE MISSIONThe brain will always find a reason
to talk you out of what you already feel is true.
This work is learning to hear your own knowing.
For centuries, women's knowledge about birth, the body, and life's cycles was held and passed between women. In a few generations, most of it was taken — replaced by systems that taught women to doubt their own instincts instead of trusting them.
Wisdom of Empowerment exists to change that — through birth, motherhood, money, and body; through circles, retreats, and Mau, the postnatal centre I'm building. Not to fix women. To help them remember.
Mau — a holistic birth
and postnatal centre
Pronounced "MAA-ooh" — Vietnamese for Mother, rooted in Đạo Mẫu, the UNESCO-recognised Mother Goddess tradition.
THE VISION
In almost every traditional culture across human history, there is a recognised period after birth where the new mother is held, nourished, and supported. In Ayurvedic tradition, this is forty-two days. In Chinese tradition, it is called Zuo Yuezi — sitting the month. In Mexican tradition, la cuarentena. Cultures that share nothing else, share this: a new mother needs to be held.
In the modern Western world, this has almost entirely disappeared. Mau is my answer to that gap.
Holistic birth preparation — evidence-based, body-centred, informed. Full education for both parents, not a one-off class.
Qualified midwifery support — professional, compassionate care working alongside a woman's own choices, with no default medical intervention.
42-day postnatal care — nourishment, rest, community, and the space to transition into motherhood without being abandoned by the system.
Accessible and affordable — Every woman who gives birth deserves to be held.
“The power was never taken from your body — only from your awareness of it. And awareness can always be restored.”
Ways to work together
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Women's Circle
A sacred space for women to come together, be witnessed, and remember themselves — no performing, no explaining yourself.
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Wellness Retreats
Immersive experiences bringing together movement, sound healing, breathwork, and ancient feminine wisdom — spaces where women come back to themselves.
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Reiki Training
Reiki Level 1 and Level 2 training — a pathway into energy healing for women ready to deepen their self-healing practice or begin a professional journey.
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Birth Preparation
Informed, evidence-based birth preparation rooted in the body's intelligence — understanding your physiology, your options, and your power.
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Sound Healing
Frequency and sound healing sessions and recordings — meditations and music built for rest, release, and reconnecting with your body.
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Speaking & Collaboration
Available for speaking engagements, podcast appearances, panel discussions, and collaboration aligned with women's empowerment and holistic wellness.
WHY IT'S PERSONAL
Why birth is at the
heart of everything
I've given birth at home more than once, with no doctor or midwife in the room. I'd always been curious about how birth actually works, but everything changed when I became pregnant with my second child — that's when I stopped skimming the surface and went deep, studying birth physiology, hormonal biology, the history of birth, and everything generations of women once knew about this process before medicine took over managing it.
Every woman deserves to make her own fully informed choice about how she gives birth. I'm sharing mine because it's where everything I'm building actually comes from. Mau exists because I know what it feels like to stand inside your own power in the most primal moment of a woman's life, and I want every woman to have that knowledge, that preparation, and that support available to her.